The list of basic needs is unchangable for years and they are very important for every person. But the way we satisfy our needs depends on our personality, habits, convictions, our age, experience.
It is an art to understand the need behind the feeling, and what we feel and what we think. Neccessarily it is to separate feelings from thoughts, then find needs behind and finally prepare the solution.
The solutions can differ for different people. And everybody is convicted in his own rightness. It becomes an art to accept the other way of their needs satisfaction without judgement and critisism.
It is still a lesson I have to learn.